A Different Sort of Clever – Knowing Yourself

Why do smart people do stupid things sometimes? It’s a question that had researchers stumped until an American Psychologist named Daniel Goleman popularised a new concept in the 1980s. The theory suggested that there were two measurable forms of intelligence: IQ and EQ.

Last time, we focused on what Emotional Intelligence means, and how it might come in handy for us in day-to-day life. That’s all well and good, but what can we do to develop it? In the next few installments of our EQ series, we’ll share four areas you can work on now in order to develop the skills that’ll come in useful later.

Work on Self-Awareness

The attachment theory suggests that everybody’s emotional experience is a reflection of the experiences they had in their early life and formative years. Anger, fear, joy and sadness are emotions that can be very difficult to manage, and if you really struggle with them, there’s a chance it’s due to the quality of your early life emotional experiences. When we struggle with our emotions, we’re more likely to ignore them – which is what gives them the opportunity to affect our decisions. Like wasps at a picnic – it’s sensible to keep an eye on what your emotions are doing. You don’t want to lose sight of them and end up getting stung. Take time to connect with what you’re feeling, recognise when you’re flowing from one emotion to another, pay attention to what your facial expressions are revealing about what’s going on inside your head. Mindfulness practice helps here too, because it teaches us to turn our attention inwards, and get a general overview of what’s going on with our thoughts. EQ can only start to grow once we’ve connected with and accepted our emotions.

Spend some time gently directing your attention to what your emotions are doing, and then gently direct your attention to our future guides to developing your emotional intelligence, so you can discover how The Employability Experts can help you take your career to the next level.